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Solve your real life dilemmas with our newsletter & receive a free copy of "10 Essential Things You Have To Know About Making Decisions" when you subscribe  | How Can I Win The Cooperation Of Others Easily?Friday, 1 February 2008 My 4 month old daughter helped me learn this lesson while cooking along live to Gordon Ramsey on the TV the other week.Funny how a learning suddenly sinks in. (What's that saying about being able to take a horse to water .... ;->) Anyhow, thanks to a drive to get the nation cooking and my daughter's presence, I've learnt that being intentional in my actions elicits cooperation from others. Let me explain ...It was a Friday night, 9 pm, when the British public had the first-time-ever opportunity of cooking along live with Michelin star chef, Gordon Ramsey. The TV and radio did a grand job of promoting the event in the week leading up to it, so by the time Friday arrived, a frenzy of excitement permeated the air in my house!. I'd gone to the supermarket earlier in the day and bought the ingredients that Channel 4 said I'd need. The fridge was stocked, the TV was on in the kitchen, and I was ready to rock and roll. The plan was that my husband would care for little one while I was cooking. However, because of the feverish speed with which Gordon Ramsey cooks and talks, I fell behind within minutes (and messed up how to cut the potatoes). Charlie realized that if he wanted dinner that night, he'd have to roll his sleeves up and get cooking with me, so baby was put in her chair in the middle of the kitchen. So picture this. Both of us running around the kitchen, executing tasks in real time as Gordon Ramsey was giving them, the TV volume on 80 (that's really loud on our telly!), and baby Moore was in her chair in the midst of it all. The starter (scallops with a tomato salsa) were dished up and ready to be eaten while the main course was underway. A commercial break gave us 5 minutes to wolf down this delectable dish. Before the last mouthful of starter was barely swallowed, the frenzy began again. The steaks were frying, home made chips were cooking in the oven, and the chocolate mousse for desert was underway. Another commercial break gave us 5 minutes or so to eat our main course. With lightening speed we finished our steaks, chips and salad, just in time to follow along to the instructions for pud. Pour, whisk, fold-in, dish-up, done. Phew! We sat and ate our chocolate mousse amidst a bomb-site. Every utensil we own seemed to have been used. The washing up bowl was over flowing with dishes, and the long task of clearing up dawned upon us! All the while Zoe had sat contentedly in her chair. We were amazed. For 1 hour (that was the length of the show) she watched us, played, sang (well more of a gurgle really) and smiled! This was a momentous event because up until then, she'd only been willing to spend a maximum of 10 minutes in her chair while I cooked. The moral of the story What I took from this experience is that when I'm intentional in my actions (as I was about cooking along with Gordon that night), it communicates a message of intentionality to others, and seems to invoke a level of cooperation that may not have otherwise been there. Ok perhaps this was a some what unique scenario what with the live-cook-a-long, but the experience got me thinking ... - What effect does dithering have on the people around me?
- When I'm not sure about what I want, how does this impact others who are directly involved?
- If I'm non committal about what I'm going to do, and as a result ‘flit' from thing to thing, how does this feel to others?
I've realized that being un-intentional in my actions, often results in tension, so now I do my very best to act with intention. In summary, I believe that it pays off to: Communicate what you intend. Be purposeful in the way in which you go about it. Commit and Follow-through. Since I've been doing this, there's been a synergy and a level of cooperation that has made home life all the more sweeter. ‘till next month. Janice
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Wednesday, 30 April 2008 IntroductionI don't claim to know whether things going right on the outside (e.g. having time for a good cup of tea before leaving the house, having a run of green lights all the way into work, finding that your boss is out of the office for the day ...) is what causes people to have a good day, or whether it comes about as a result of a concerted effort from the individual to enter into a good frame of mind. Perhaps it's both. What I do know though, is that it's possible for a person to influence how they feel by where they put their attention... Read more... | The Empowered Life Parenting Seminar
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Tuesday, 1 April 2008 The real life dilemma that I've chosen for this month is one that I plan to run with for a few issues. This is because I intend to take you through various exercises that I think deliver greater results if applied over a period of time.I've chosen this particular dilemma for a couple of reasons. The first is because providing a practical "in the world" resolution to the existential longing that people suffer in modern society. is at the heart of what the MythoSelf Process is all about, and I want to demonstrate to you how I think this is so. The second reason is because I'd like to do by bit to demystify the MythoSelf Process and make it more accessible to people who are searching with the personal development field ...
Read more... | I Feel Lonely
Friday, 29 February 2008 What a strange thing it is. To be amongst people, and yet to feel lonely. I'm speaking about a very specific kind of loneliness. It's the type that comes about when you're with people who have a different outlook on life than you. Further still, it's the kind of loneliness that's felt when these people try to impose their beliefs on you, and where you say nothing, for what ever reason. If you've attended MythoSelf Process trainings, NLP trainings, or engaged in other forms of personal development, you may have a sense of what I mean. Or perhaps you've always been different to other folk ;-) - in your beliefs and behaviours - and this leaves you feeling lonely at times. This month I'll be exploring ...
Read more... | How To Let Go And Move On Quickly
Thursday, 13 December 2007 It would be easy for me to begin this months real life dilemma with an in depth exploration into why hasn't been so easy (for me .. and perhaps for you too) to quickly let go and move on when civilized communication has turned into war. But I won't start there because doing so isn't particularly in keeping with the MythoSelf Process. Plus it would be doing the very thing that actually causes what we want to avoid - i.e. going over what's already happened, processessing, festering, justifying and ultimately dragging things out is not conducive to letting go and moving on quickly. Instead I'm going to be entirely solution focused and I'll get right down to offering some tips and techniques to help you with letting go and moving on quickly ...
Read more... | I ask for input, then ignore what I'm offered and do my own thing anyway
Wednesday, 28 November 2007 This month's "Real Life Dilemma" is guaranteed to get the goat up in anyone who is on the receiving end of it. Asking someone for their input, and then doing your own thing anyway can result in a fall-out of titanic proportions. I'll be presenting a scenario to illustrate this type of dilemma; exploring the tactics that are in play during such an exchange, and providing some tips on how to avoid this being a stressor in your relationships... Read more... | How Do I Keep Calm When Everything Around Me Is Chaotic?
Wednesday, 31 October 2007 Ever watched those movies where just at the point of crisis a super hero shows up and makes every thing good? For some people, the equivalent of the Hollywood super hero does come to the rescue, but for most we are left to figure out our own way out of the fire. This "Real Life Dilemma" aims to provide some tips and techniques to help you be your own super hero at those times in your life when you really don't think things could get any more difficult ...Read more... | I shut down when things get too much
Sunday, 30 September 2007 How can it be that I can barely remember anything about a good 10 years of my life? It's not as if I've been in an accident and suffered memory loss, and neither is it because I didn't do anything during that time worth remembering. Quite the contrary, I actually did a great deal of traveling, visiting 2 or 3 different countries a year most years. I moved house a couple of times, moved job a couple of times. Hardly an uneventful 10 years! Yet I have great difficultly recalling anything with any great detail. This month's real life dilemma will explore what's possibly going on to cause this comatose state, and what you can do to prevent it happening.
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