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How Do I Keep Calm When Everything Around Me Is Chaotic?
31 October 2007 | Admin
Ever watched those movies where just at the point of crisis a super hero shows up and makes every thing good? For some people, the equivalent of the Hollywood super hero does come to the rescue, but for most we are left to figure out our own way out of the fire.
This "Real Life Dilemma" aims to provide some tips and techniques to help you be your own super hero at those times in your life when you really don't think things could get any more difficult.
Identify one thing that, if you do it today, you know will make you feel better
When things are weighing heavily on your mind, there is nothing quite like positive action. Pick one thing that you know will give you quick lift and do it. This will set you up to be in a more resourceful mood for the other tips and techniques to follow.
Remember the things that really matter
When the pressure is turned up high, take a moment to remember and be grateful for the things that really matter to you. Whether this be loved ones, friends or even pondering on the bigger picture of what life is all about, you'll find this time for reflection calming and grounding.
Review your expectations
When you expect things to be a certain way, you run the risk of setting yourself up for disappointment and frustration. This doesn't mean to say that you shouldn't wish and plan for things to turn out a certain way, but be aware that the more set in your mind you are about how things should be, the more scope there is for disappointment.
It's through chaos that we know ourselves to be truly alive
If you are having the adventure of your life, then chaos is inevitable. The alternative is to turn a cheek to the life that you really want to be living, and have everything be stable and comfortable (and probably boring) instead. You get to choose!
Trials are part of every hero's life
If you've stepped away from the path that's comfortable and familiar to create instead something that satisfies the calling in your heart, you are a hero - and every hero, both fictional and real, should expect trials along the way.
You get to control the experience you are having in your body
You have a degree of influence on how things are in the environment around you, but you may not always be able to have things "on the outside" just as you'd like them. To compensate for this, you have been given the gift of being able to control how you are feeling inside yourself - this is 100% within your power. Here's a technique to try: Notice what it feels like to have your feet firmly on the floor. Notice how the floor reaches out to fill the space that you are in. Picture in your minds eye how the floor eventually reaches out to the street outside, the town next door, other countries, other continents. Think of all the people in the world who in a sense share so much with you no matter what.