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“My life feels empty and hollow”
Tuesday, 1 April 2008 | Admin
Real Life Dilemmas: Solved
"My life feels empty and hollow"
The real life dilemma that I've chosen for this month is one that I plan to run with for a few issues. This is because I intend to take you through various exercises that I think deliver greater results if applied over a period of time.
I've chosen this particular dilemma for a couple of reasons.
The first is because providing a practical "in the world" resolution to the existential longing that people suffer in modern society, is at the heart of what the MythoSelf Process is all about, and I want to demonstrate to you how I think this is so.
The second reason is because I'd like to do my bit to demystify the MythoSelf Process and make it more accessible to people who are searching within the personal development field.
I very much hope that whether or not the dilemma I've chosen strikes a cord for you, it will help you to have a better understanding of what we're about at Generative NLP and how the MythoSelf Process can be applied.
The general format that I'll be taking in this and the next few issues is as follows:
Once last thing before I begin proper, I'll provide a link that you can click on to previous issues/lessons so that if you need or want to go back, you'll easily be able to.
So let's begin!
My life feels empty and hollow - Part 1
Each and every one of us has a way in which we go about our life that's determined by the moral code of conduct that we hold. This moral code of conduct drives the decisions we make and the actions we take, and it's essentially the driving force behind who we are being in the world.
To a large extent, how successful and happy you feel in your life is down to the particular moral code of conduct that you hold true.
Having and demonstrating reverence for life is the moral code of conduct implicit within the MythoSelf Process.
To express reverence for life requires that you develop the attitude that there is something greater than you, to which you belong. Within the model of the MythoSelf Process, we call this ‘Greater Than Self (GTS)' and a MythoSelf Facilitator or Trainer would lead you to access GTS as a precursor to working together - so that's where we're going to begin...
Exercise Part 1
As you go about your day, notice for evidence of life, as if buds, grows and flourishes. Also notice for evidence of withering, fading, and dying away.
Consciously and intensively focus your full attention on these things when you happen upon them. Try to block out any other thoughts for a short time, and dwell on these things alone.
At first, you will need to look at these things actively and precisely. Perhaps even stopping what you are doing to take in what you are observing.
Do this every day from now on. You will soon realize that a feeling that previously only flitted through your soul has now grown, become strong and filled you with energy. That feeling of inward peace and connection will echo within you.
Exercise Part 2
When you notice yourself criticizing or judging the words or actions of someone else, pause.
Remind yourself that selfless respect for all people is food to your soul. If you criticize the weaknesses of other people, you are robbing yourself of higher cognitive power.
Enter instead into another person's good qualities and show respect and humility. Guard against disrespectful, disparaging and criticizing thoughts, and instead practice reverence and respect.
Soon you will start noticing things around you that you couldn't see. As you practice treating fellow human beings this way (with reverence), the world around you opens up.
Coming up in the next issue ...
In the language of the MythoSelf Process, we call it the "Excitatory Bias". In our continuation with the real life dilemma "My life feels empty and hollow", I'll show you how operating from the excitatory bias - a positive, forward thinking frame of mind - can transform your daily experiences.